Six weeks later.. anxiety! 

My first week was horrific! I had nightmares that were so so real that were just horrific! I’d wake up dripping wet. It was awful. I didn’t feel too much different during the day I was still nervous, panicking and looking for every danger, that didn’t exist! 
Week two brought a sense of relief, I’m not really sure if it was genuine or I was just having a good week! The nightmares continued but I’d got used to them by now.. 
Week three and half way through week four I felt normal! Just like how I used to feel.. I was enjoying going out and I wasn’t thinking of every danger imaginable.. it felt good. 
The second half of week four, the panic returns! I visited the local shopping centre to upgrade my phone. Whilst sat speaking to the adviser I felt as though I was going to faint, this was the first time in weeks I had felt this bad.. even before medication. I rang my sister to come get me and as soon as the phone call ended I felt better. The adviser was so good! I told her what was happening and she was so reassuring and amazing with me! I continued to get my phone and then went home. I felt drained for about three days. As my attempt to get a doctors appointment for the past two weeks had failed I was left with no choice but to book an emergency appointment to get more medication. The doctor upt my dose after hearing I wasn’t coping very well. 
Week five, upping my medication gave me a few days of normally! But the panic soon returned. I managed to go out for meal and to the cinema for my birthday, but I feel a huge sense of getting through this was due to the film being hilarious and my mind being distracted. I have started to feel so so tired! Usually I can manage on about 5-6 hours sleep at the moment I’m having at least 8 and feel so sluggish! Maybe I’m over sleeping, but is that really a thing I don’t know! 
Week six, started on my birthday! We had made plans to go to the lake for a walk, I thought open space would be perfect as I tend to feel fine when I’m in control and whilst outdoors I can be. As we were getting ready to set off my mum asked if we fancied going out for breakfast. Suddenly I felt a wave of nerves and panic hit me! I didn’t say anything and got in the car. We arrived at the cafe and the fainting feeling struck! I had to sit down instantly I felt awful, really awful. I cried and panicked. We got the breakfast to go and we went home. I felt a release as soon as we were home. The lake was a no go as I simply felt way too tired and we had plans to go out in the evening for tea. As the evening approached I felt my chest getting tight I was so worried! But I planned to have a few drinks in hope to release my mind into relaxing! How very very wrong I was! I had my first drink, nervous and hoping it would ease my anxiousness. Instead it sent me into a full panic attack! My meal arrived just as it hit! Tears poured down my face! Luckily my dad could see I needed to get up and go! He grabbed my arm and took me outside. After five minutes the panic attack had passed. I went back in and ate my meal. I really just wanted to go home, but I had to stick it out. The next day I was kept busy at work and with the kids. Wednesday was a slow day at work and I found myself with a new anxiety symptom! Anxiety head aches! I have suffered with migraines for a few years and believed it was the beginning of a migraine. Until the room started spinnning and I was so not with it, I felt completely drunk! Confused and unable to concentrate! My mum googled my symptoms and discovered I had described an anxiety headache! 
The last day of week six will be my visit to the neurologist which is tomorrow! I’m so worried! Scared, nervous and not at all wanting to know if there is something ‘serious’ wrong with me! But then hopefully they can give me some ideas of what’s happening and relief some of my worry! 
 
 

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Where has my baby gone?! 

Today Daisy graduated from nursery! I was so proud watching her on stage singing and dancing with all her friends! 

We were told daisy would never walk, talk or show any form of emotion.. how wrong they got it! She is such a happy clever little lady! 

Today at nursery all the children from morning nursery and afternoon nursery got to graduate together infront of parents and other relatives! It was amazing! 


They all sang a goodbye song which I had heard endlessly for the past two weeks at home! They sang a song they had learnt during music week and then they danced to a song that the children had voted on. At the end they were all presented with their learning journal and a gift. Daisy was so proud of herself! I was so proud of her! 

I must remember every single day just how lucky I am to have such a healthy lovable and clever girl! 

Here is Daisy on her first day at nursery and on her graduation day today! 

Anxiety..

I have always thought of myself as the strong one! The one that can cope with everything and hold it all together for not just me but for everyone. I don’t talk about my feelings, I don’t let my guard down and I never let anyone know if I’m feeling down. I just get on with it and I’m fine.. Well recently I have been struggling to keep myself together.

Maybe this started in January. I quit my charity work with a plan to focus on me and the girls! I ran a charity that raised money for the unit that looked after Daisy when she was really ill. I set it up when Daisy was discharged from the hospital and it has literally been my life for the past three years. I held fundraisers, put on events and many other things… for the past three years I have sold Reindeer Food and Snowman Soup it was the big money maker for the charity, but this year (Dec 16) I found my sales drop.. I then learnt that a few friends had stolen my ideas and had began selling them for their own gain. It was a low blow and was the final straw which pushed me to step back and take a break.. anyway I think this could have caused the downfall I have now come to see.

In January I lashed out at my very best friend. Looking back now, she did not deserve the rant she received! Cutting a long story short I took a few minor things to heart and I told her I was done with her. We fell out.

Fast forward a few months.. At the time I didn’t really see my behaviour as odd but now I realise it wasn’t normal! I had become to over think things. I developed fears of things that I had never feared before. I took Daisy to get her ears pierced, I signed the paper work and then just as the lady was getting her things ready I had to walk out! I couldn’t cope! I felt as though i couldn’t breathe. Another time i went for my eyes testing and fainted! Who faints getting their eyes tested! I had a few other experiences like these that really didn’t make sense to me as i had never felt that way before.

Going shopping was becoming scary. I began to think that something bad was going to happen. It wasn’t helped by the police presence after the terror attacks and literally everytime i went shopping or out to a big public space i would plan my exit. I wouldn’t go into stores that didn’t have an easy get away. Going out for meals i had to sit with the door in my sight and eat as fast as possible so I could leave as soon as possible.

The main change in my behaviour occurred when my parents took Daisy away for the week, Lily was supposed to go but had changed her mind. As Lily deceided to stay home my sister opted to go in her place. this was the first time in a very long time that i was home alone and soley responsible for Lily. The week began fine, but as the week went on i started to feel really strange. I cant describe it any other way other than strange. Lily had been invited to her friends birthday party and was sleeping over at her house. I dropped her off at the party and walked over to the shops which were close to where we live. i was looking at suitcases and i had this rush of panic. I had to get out. I felt as though i could faint at any moment and i just had to leave. I ran! As i reached the door my mum rang, which i think helped to calm me down. I went home and had an emotional few hours flicking threw pictures of Daisy when she was ill. At around ten i took myself to bed. I was so restless and couldn’t get to sleep. After an hour of tossing and turning i received a phone call from the parent that had Lily asking me to come and collect her. I had instant panic! Walking at this time to her house wasn’t ideal but i was seriously terrified. I collected lily and when we were home we got into bed. This is when i had my first panic attack, my arms were shaking, my legs were shaking and i was uncontrollably crying. At the time i did not know what was happening and thought i was having some kind of seizure. Lily was so good! But i could see she was scared. I rang the only person i knew would be up. My friend that i had fallen out with in January. she was amazing! She told me to go come round to her house with Lily and she rang the medical helpline for some advice. I was given a drs appointment for the morning. I thanked her and hugged her before me and Lily left to go home. I had stopped shaking and the panic feeling wasn’t as strong. Lily snuggled up to me and went to sleep. I laid awake watching the television to try distract myself, at some point i must have fallen asleep.

The next day Lily went to her dads and i went to my doctors appointment. A friend came with me just incase i had a repeat of last night. I went in to see the doctor and well he wasn’t the best. He thought i was drunk! He told me i possibly had a shake problem in my arm. I left feeling as though i had just wasted my time. 

Fast forward a few months and these episodes were happening on a weekly basis sometimes twice a week!

Then came our holiday.. I love flying but for the first time in the twenty six years of my life I found I had to get drunk to enable myself to get on the plane.. I’m not a drinker! I love flying! The thought of terbulance would get me so excited! Not this time! I hated it! Even sat in the isle seat!! Whilst away I had roughly five panic attacks and I fainted once! Yes actually fainted! I spent three full days and four nights inside the apartment. This is not me! I wanted to go to see the volcano but I couldn’t bring myself to be in a place I had no control.. I wanted to go on a boat to see the dolphins but I couldn’t bring myself to do so! The days we ventured out were to the pool which was a minutes walk away and to the beach that was a five minute walk away! I went knowing I could get up and go home at any point.. and I drank! I found my way to cope whilst away was to drink! 

When we returned from our holiday I realised something wasn’t right! This was not me! I felt nervous all the time! I was scared all the time! I was worrying about things that didn’t matter! I was starting to create problems that didn’t exist! I felt faint when talking to people! I became a sweaty person when around others or worrying! I couldn’t concentrate! I couldn’t sleep! I was terrified of going to sleep and not waking up! I couldn’t breathe! It wasn’t me! 

So I booked in to see my doctor! Monday 10th July.. I was so nervous but I knew I had to do this as I was never going to get away from these feelings and well I couldn’t cope anymore. She was amazing! Completely understanding! Really helpful and I felt a weight realise from my shoulders as soon as we started talking. She advised me about talking therapy and prescribed me a low dose of medication. She told me I was experiencing anxiety and I wasn’t crazy! 

Leaving the appointment i felt so much better.. it was the first time in a long time that I walked home without my headphones in! 

That night I started my medication.. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Goodbye Dummies..

I have decided enough if enough! The dummies need to go! Daisy is four and still a complete dummie addict! Last Christmas I attempted to get rid of them but I gave in when she wouldn’t stop crying.. ever since then I have tried every so often but each time I have given in.. made excuses about her breathing problems! Daisy does have breathing problems and I was told sucking a dummie would help however I don’t think the dr intended her to have them for life! 

As we got off the plane from Tenerife Monday evening a decided to leave them behind they were hidden in my bag, but Daisy was told I left them on the plane by accident. She asked for them a few times on the taxi ride home but I just apologised and explained I’d been silly and left them on the plane.

When it was bed time it helped that she was tired and not in her routine I think.. Me, Lily and Daisy all got into my bed for snuggles and after an hour or so of whining and asking for them she fell asleep.. without them!

When she woke up she didn’t even realise she didn’t have her dummies! I told her I was so proud of her and how much of a big girl she was! It was a school morning so up and off we were.

The second night wasn’t as hard has I had thought.. she cried but not for long. Maybe ten minutes until she fell asleep! I told her she deserved a big treat for being such a big girl! She has being asking for a cry baby since Christmas but I had no idea what she meant until last week when she showed me one in the shop so I decided to order her one! She’s going to be so happy!! 

Daisy woke up in the night, she was a little sad and cried for maybe five minutes. I‘ve always had the same approach to in the night crying and that’s a simple ‘go back to sleep’ and or ‘shhh its sleep time’ it is said in a very to the point plain voice and they are expected to do as they are told.. this usually does work very well and unless their ill the crying stops fairly quickly and without much fuss. 

When Daisy woke up I told her I was very proud of her!

Later that day a parcel arrived, I told Daisy it was for her. She was so excited! I said it was a special gift for giving up her dummies. Her face was better than Christmas morning! She opened the box so slowly as she kept stopping to jump up and down and smile at me! When she opened it my heart melted, her face was filled with joy as she reached into the box to pull out her cry baby. I explained she had received it for being such a big girl and making everyone so proud by no longer needing dummies to go to sleep. She then spent the entire afternoon clutching her new doll.

Night three was a bit slow, she had been at her nanas for tea and they live about ten minutes away so I presumed she’d maybe had a little kip on the route home so I wasn’t in a rush to get her into bed, at around 8:30 we went to bed, again she asked for her dummies and again I explained she was a big girl now so didn’t have them anymore. Again, she got sad and as I could see no sleep in her I let her watch the TV for a bit. At 9:00 it was turned off and we had cuddles. She went to sleep with very little fuss at all!

Daisy woke again in the night, but went straight back to sleep. No mention of her dummies!!

When Daisy woke up I asked her if she’d had a good nights sleep, she said she had and confirmed to me that she was a big girl now and hadn’t needed her dummies again! I told her again how proud I felt!

Night four, no mention of dummies. Dare I say WE DID IT!

Goodbye dummies!

 

 



Nursery Trip!

Today we visited St Lenords Farm in Shipley, Yorkshire! Me and Daisy arrived at nursery at 8:45am with our packed lunch and rain coats it was pouring it down!!

I stood with Sarah and Charlotte while Daisy sat with their daughters Maisie and Maddison on the carpet. The teacher called the register and we waited until everyone had arrived which was thirty minutes later clearly some people believe the world revolves around them! When we got on the coach Daisy and Maisie sat alongside one another and Maddison infront. They are such good friends it lovely to see them! The journey was about forty-five minutes and the girls chatted all the way. 


When we arrived we walked up the road to the farm. We visited the farm last year and had such a lovely time. We dropped our lunch off in a school room and went into the indoor barn for our animal talk. Farmer James gave the talk! He was appropriate for the children but had the humour in his speak for the adults too! He passed around various animals for us to hold and touch. I’m not a fan of animals so I opted not to touch but Daisy loved it! She stroked a lamb, kid, chick, ferret, chinchilla and hen! It was lovely to have a hand on experience as I’ve not been to anywhere around Leeds that offers this kind of experience before. 

After the talk we all went over to the hay bales, the kids loved it! Running around jumping off and climbing back up to the top! It’s lovely to watch them have such fun on something so simple as hay! 

Next stop was the indoor play area, which is suitable for adults too!! They have two big slides, the first is a bumpy slide which requires a mat and the second is a child friendly death drop style slide. Daisy wasn’t a fan of this one but did go on it once. The play area includes a ball pit, smaller slide and climb, firemans pole and the usual indoor soft play obstacles. I did love the one here though as I could stand at all aspects where as usually I have to bend down to fit. I enjoyed a cup of tea and a chat with the other mums whilst Daisy continued to play.

Dinner time couldn’t come soon enough! I was so hungry it was unreal! Tuna pasta for me and sandwich for Daisy! I love a packed lunch somehow it always seems a little better eaten out of plastic Tupperware. Crisps and chocolate for afters. 

We then went to feed the animals! Goats, sheep, donkeys and chickens! Daisy wasn’t very good at feeding them she kept curling her fingers up and didn’t fully get that she needed to keep her hand flat. We had a lovely walk around looking at the animals and then they went back to play on the hay. I sneaked off with Daisy to take a picture in the same spot as last year so I could capture a one year difference. It’s scary how much she has changed in just one year! 


At around 2:20pm we headed back to the coach for our trip home. 

Daisy had such an amazing day! She loved playing with her friends and being around the animals. 
Www.stleonardsfarm.com/

Day Nine.. 

What a day today has been!!

Had next to no sleep last night as Lily was up most of the night in pain with her ear! Then when I looked in the mirror I noticed blisters had started to form on my very burnt shoulders! I’m so annoyed with myself because I literally went in the pool and got out 20 mins before heading back to the apartment so didn’t reapply any cream! Big mistake!! 

When we were all awake we walked up to the pool bar to ask where was the best place to go for a doctor! The lady described a place we had seen and off we went. The dr checked Lilys ear and conculded she has an ear infection.. so I paid the bill which was €135. Just as I’d paid Lily went drip white and fainted! The dr, myself and my sister carried her into the Drs room.. she came round and then fainted again! The doctor insisted on phoning an ambulance, he thought she was having some sort of heart attack!! So of course I panic and then I faint too!! What a pair! 

The ambulance arrived and well Lily kicked off like crazy! Not sure if she was a bit out of it from faining or she was showing her true colours! I was so weak after also fainting and it took my dad my mum and my sister to get her into the ambulance. On route the nurse was so lovely very reassuring and patient! Lily calmed down and accepted that she was going to go to hospital for some tests. 

-Lilys ambulance selfie-

We arrived at the hospital and despite the waiting room being so full we were taken straight into a side room. After a while the lady from the ambulance returned to take Lilys bloods.. again Lily wasn’t impressed about this but after being pinned down by myself and my dad the nurse managed to get a canular in! They took some blood and bandaged her canular up. We then were taken to a ward, where we had to wait for the results. 


We played tipping point, eye spy and watched YouTube to try keep Lilys mind at ease! She was hungry and bored! The vending machine offered a very strange variety of things and I think she was too worried to eat at the time despite not having eaten a thing all day! 


At around 5pm the blood results came back, all was fine! We could take her home! So I paid the bill.. which was over €850! I’m glad I brought my credit card!! 

I called into the chemist for the prescription and dad hailed a taxi, we went back to the apartment. 

My shoulders had completely blistered by the time we were home so after putting Lilys ear drops in i covered myself with an ice cold wet pillowcase in hope to rescue my poor shoulders! Lily then had to take a tablet, this is her first time! Lily being lily wasn’t going to make it easy and after about thirty minutes she finally swallowed it! 

My mum, Dad and nats all went out I wasn’t going out in the sun with my blisters! Me and the girls joined them after watching Emerdale which was around the same time that the sun went down.

We walked along the front and bought a few presents for the girls dads and friends. Then we went to the restaurant for some food. I ordered the same starter as always and pasta for my main.. the pasta wasn’t great but I’m very fussy with pasta! Everyone else said theirs was lovely so it must have just been me!

After dinner we walked to get an ice cream! The girls also bought a light up ball on a string. On the way home Daisy lost hers.. I tried catching it but failed. Lily was so kind and instantly gave her hers! 


When we got back to the apartment we had a drink on the balcony and then went to bed.. after putting more ear drops in Lilys ears and her having another tablet! 

This has been the most expensive day of the holiday so far! I’m so glad I have medical insurance so I can claim it all back once home! 

Day Five.. 

Day five already!! So today we had a family breakfast on the balcony.. I had a chocolate dipped croissant not what I had asked for but it’s what my dad thought I’d like from the shop.. Daisy had a donut again not what I’d asked my dad for but never mind.. Lily also had the same as me. 

-Lily & Daisy at breakfast-

We creamed up and headed to the pool. 

Lily was driving my insane! Lily as much as I love her to pieces I could honestly leave her at home some days! Daisy was a bit tired not sure if her chronic lung disease is causing problems so she wanted to have a sleep. So I got out the pool to get her to sleep.. I left lily alone in the pool, now she is 8 years old and is a very good swimmer so I had no concerns that she was fine. The pool is also a private pool that we’ve literally had to ourselves all holiday! Anyway, she decides she’s going to play the ‘You love her more then me’ card! Which ok maybe I do treat Daisy a bit different she almost died several times and has ongoing health problems that make me appreciate my time spent with her a little differently but anyway.. lily starts huffing and puffing and complaining! So I take her out the pool and walk her back to the apartment. We discuss how she’s behaving like a spoilt brat and that me being outside the pool for ten minutes isn’t being unreasonable.. i should be ok to expect she can entertain herself for at least thirty minutes! But no, Lily disagrees. She’s hard work! She is very demanding. Very spoilt. Very all about me! Very not how I brought her up! So we have a chat, this is a regular thing for us and it’s done. ..Daisy never actually went to sleep in the end.

It’s now dinner time, so we all walk over to the shop to get a nice baguette and meat to eat. We stopped off in a few tat shops and all bought ankle bracelets. 

-Lunch or dinner-

We eat our dinner at the pool and then play in the pool.. I was the shark that was attacking the boats. The girls thought it was an ace game! 

Then it was time again to go get ready to go out! 


Tonight we went to the restaurant we had cocktails in a few nights ago that was on the front. I ordered a purple rain.. it was stunning! 

-Purple Rain-

Whilst I was enjoying my cocktail my dad rang my grandma back at home.. my grandad is currently in hospital and she’s by herself.. she told my dad about a guy knocking on her door to see if she wanted any gardening doing. She had said yes and let him in! He then tried charging her over £1000.. he was there a few hours!!!! She doesn’t have that kind of money, but gave him what she did have! My dad went crazy! My grandma got upset. My dads instinct was I’m coming home. Which is my dad all over, family is first and if someone isn’t doing well and they need support he’s the first there. I told him that he wasn’t to leave and he should ring his sister my auntie instead. Now she and my uncle are the complete opposite of my dad! They never help and never care unless it concerns them. I have argued with her in the past over how wrong she is to expect my dad to do everything.. so he rings her! Her reply was as expected.. I’m too busy!! Now she is with a man that has money, she works because she is bored at home twice a week which I believe is on a Thursday and a Friday .. she doesn’t have to! They don’t need the money. She goes to the gym every morning and has lunches with the girls. So how she can be too busy to go take care of her mum for the two weeks we’re away is beyond me!! My dad, and my mum, myself and sister all work full time jobs.. we all have taken unpaid leave from work to ensure she and my grandad are ok! Why the f*** can’t she! So back to the actual story.. my dad gets off the phone and is clearly upset. Firstly at the fact that he can’t do anything and secondly at the fact that my auntie is a selfish cow! I then suggest he rings our family friend who works for the police for some advice.. she suggests reporting it and offers to go see her! Yes a complete stranger to my grandma offers to go see her but my grandmas daughter is too busy for her!!… an hour or so passes and my dad recalls my grandma to suggest she goes to live in our house where we know she has our neighbours that would assist her completely and she’d be safe of course we are worried this guy is going to return.. but before he gets chance to my gran reveals my auntie has just been on the phone offering to come down tomorrow! Guess she felt guilty! My dad now feels a little more at ease, our police lady friend is calling by also tomorrow to check she is ok. 

We then went to the table for food!!! Me and my dad love sea food!! So we ordered a sea food sharer, it was nice but wasn’t amazing! 

Daisy was fast asleep by this time! After we had eaten.. and drank several more cocktails we headed home!